He was a good guy. We got along well, he went to church with me and stood with me through a terrible health scare. When I came through it, he asked me to marry him. I said yes.
Yet, there were flags. Things that didn’t “fit.” And as we went through premarital counseling, the flags became more and more clear. Issues started resurfacing which both of us had ignored throughout our relationship. Deep down I realized this wasn’t God’s best for him or for me.
But while there was a big red STOP sign in the road, the thought of cancelling our wedding was devastating. I did everything I could to ignore the obvious.
Then, a few weeks before the wedding, a good friend stopped by to chat. Hesitantly, my friend shared the hard truth, that he and others close to me saw this was hardly a good foundation for marriage. When my friend left, I fell to the floor in tears.
I felt so alone. All I could think was that I would never—now in my late 20s—get another chance at marriage. If I called this off, I would likely be single my entire life. Yet I knew it was the right thing to do, for both of us.
Feeling crushed and humiliated, I called off the wedding. At this point, all I knew for sure was that God would walk the path with me. It would be lonely, but He would be there.
This was one of the hardest seasons of my life, but over time, the embarrassment faded, and a new path formed.
I didn’t suddenly meet the right man, but I was thankful for a God who gave me courage to make the hard decision.
Several years later, after a lot of waiting, someone new came into my life. With him, I saw what a true “fit” looks like. Today we are on an amazing adventure. We have children, make memories every day. In every sense of the word, we are a team. I can’t imagine life without him.
My husband, and my life with him, is a direct result of a friend who had the strength and courage to be honest with me when I was about to take the wrong path. I’ll always be thankful for him, and for the faith it took for him to step forward and show me a new direction.
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